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 Are you allowed to express your feelings without being rediculed? Does this relationship brings health to you or deprive your mental health. Does this person energise you or drain your energy. Does this person support your effort or refrain you from it. Do you live in harmoney. 

 Betrail trauma . जेव्हा तुमच्याशी जवळची व्यक्ती चूकीचं वागते,मानसिक त्रास होइल असं वागते तेव्हा बोला, तक्रार करा,बाहेर पडा. असं कोणी सांगत असताना ऐका . समजतय हो खरच त्रासदायक आहे हे असं म्हणा . त्यांना बर वाटेल. जाउ दे जाउदे काय होतय नका करू असं करण्यातून तुम्ही त्यांचा त्रास इललेजीटीमेट आहे असं मानत असतां. समाज व्यवस्था नेहमी त्रास देणार्याला डिस्कार्ड न करता त्रास सहन करणार्याला आयुश्य असच असते वगैरे सांगत दाबते. कारण त्यांना नातं किंवा व्यवस्था टिकवायची असते. दाबलेला त्रास  चिडचिड वाढवतो चिडचिड वाढली की जखम वाढते पुढे मानसिक त्रास जडतो. म्हणून बोला. तक्रार करा मी एकतो असं म्हनणारे मानसोपचार तज्ञ माणसांना ठिक करतात. Silencing the betrayal  When someone cheat or violate your boundaries you know it but you are dependent then you supress your cheater dectector mechanism. it is not only betrayal of trust .but betrayal of trust in the time of need and dependence.at it’s most vulnerable moment

 Darling , I suffer and I m angry and I want you to know it .I dont know why you have said /done such a thing to me I suffer very much I m angry.Darling I m doing my best,I m learning  mindfulness in order to take care of my self. I m looking deeply in to the roots of my anger whether it is my wrong perception or it is because of your  unskillfulness.i can’t name it in any negative way. I never liked tejashree been in office . Whenever I see her there and mostly in your cabin or with you or you and her talking beside me a great anger errupts inside me. I try to divert my self but I can’t . I don’t know why this is happening with me. I felt so many time that I was the hurdle between you both. Which I don’t consider wrong because may be it was because you both wanted your space to love. And I was someone you fear . .  Then you try to go out saying going for work .which is also fine. But I don’t wish that someone should lie to me out of fear. . It is affecting my body s...